We are a lost people. We work so hard for abstract concepts such as success or riches or respect or romance and at the end of the day we're left more tired and less happy than when we started our struggle. We forget that what we want is not some future goal, something that will eventually perhaps make us happy like fame or a million bucks or a nice house. In short, we sacrifice today for tomorrow. We sacrifice happiness now, for the false idea of happiness later.
This blog is about happiness. Real happiness. What we all want whether we know it or not. What we all need. It's a quest to live life in such a way that puts MY happiness first, beyond anything or anyone else. It is a selfish quest, if you'd like to call it that, but a necessary one. And if it seems too selfish for you, I'll let Mark Twain speak for me: "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too."
But honestly, why else are we alive? I don't think there's a purpose to be found other than being here and being happy, the way children and animals seem to be naturally.
And so, I've started this blog, as an experiment, as much for whoever is unhappy enough to be reading this [no offense] as for myself. The experiment is this: when making any choice, big or small, over the next month, I will have only one maxim in mind: Does it make ME happy? A thought that is not necessarily on the top of my list when making decisions. Whenever I have a choice to make thousands of useless and painful thoughts flood into my mind ranging form What if it makes me look stupid? to What if she stops liking me? to What about the consequences? to It's not normal to It's gonna make me fat to Oh but I shouldn't or else I'll regret it to Oh this is wrong and all the other fears we pay too much attention to.
Now I'm in a special circumstance right now, as perhaps many of my readers are too, in that I'm unemployed. Well technically I'm taking time off from a pressured medical school life to do precisely what this blog entails, be happy. So I don't have to go to any job that doesn't make me unhappy for fear of losing it, because I quit for now. And so, in my free time, I will try my best to be completely and utterly selfish, but not in a future way, in a now way. In doing anything, thinking anything, saying anything, from wiping my ass to taking a shower to asking a girl out to writing this blog, I will first ask myself, Does it make me happy? and only if I can say a clear yes, will I go for it.
The way I see it this will either lead to epiphany or disaster. So long as I don't go to jail or lose any body parts or loved ones by the end of the month, we should be fine.
Right now, I wanna mast...icate and head to bed....cuz it makes me happy....although I'm mostly tired now...so bed it is.
Stay tuned.......
In actuality, this is also about fearlessness. It takes tremendous courage to be selfish and not care. It's a bit of letting go.
ReplyDeletegood luck, ali.
ReplyDeleteAnd though it may seem that this is a project meant purely to feed the ego, it's actually one aimed at shattering the fear it's all based on, the fear of being ourselves, truly and wholly.
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ReplyDeleteI had a technology mishap. Ali, do not look at this is a negative project to feed your ego. I see it as a concrete resume of how your feelings will evolve. I am sure you will learn a lot about yourself, just make sure not to give up on it..and follow through...
ReplyDeleteAwesome. If this keeps going, can we mention it on Atrium? ; )
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